Arranging care for a parent in Nigeria from abroad
Practical steps for families in the UK, US, Canada and elsewhere who are organising care from a distance.
Many families organise care for a parent in Nigeria while living thousands of miles away. It can feel overwhelming, but a few simple arrangements make it far more manageable.
Agree a family point person
Decide who in the family makes decisions and who the provider should contact first. If possible, also name someone nearby in Nigeria (a sibling, cousin, neighbour or church member) who can visit at short notice.
Involve your relative
Talk with your parent about what they want. People accept help more easily when they have a say in who comes into their home and what the carer does.
Meet the provider by video first
Ask for a video call with the provider, and with the carer if you can. Ask the key questions and ask the provider to do an assessment visit at your relative's home.
Set up regular updates
Agree how often you will hear from the provider, for example a weekly WhatsApp update and a monthly call. Ask that someone you trust locally drops in unannounced from time to time.
Keep payments clear and traceable
Pay into a business bank account in the provider's registered name, not a personal account, wherever possible. Agree the payment schedule in writing and keep every receipt. Be cautious about paying months in advance.
Plan for emergencies
Make sure the carer and provider know which hospital your relative uses, any medicines and allergies, and who to call. In an emergency in Nigeria, the national emergency number is 112.
Tendawell was set up by Nigerians in the diaspora for exactly this situation. Tell us what your relative needs and we will help you find a provider near them.